我最近读了一篇发人深省的文章 他在《外围十大菠菜app》上发表了一篇题为《正规博十大app排名》的文章.”
在文章中, 作者详细说明了社交媒体的兴起和演变是如何导致这种分化的, the rhetoric and confrontational atmosphere of our society today.
I don’t want to directly endorse any of the ideas within, but I do think it is an interesting read and one to which we should give much thought.
就像任何创新或发明一样, 好与坏并不是社交媒体固有的, 它源于它的使用方式. 因为Barry-Wehmiller是一家全球性公司, social media as a means to connect our teams throughout the world is a very good thing.
也, 通过社交媒体, we are able to deliver our message of Truly Human 领导 far and wide, 到地球上那些从未听说过鲍勃·查普曼和巴里·韦赫米勒的角落. Social media may be why you are reading this very post!
But I’m not writing to debate the virtue of social media platforms or technology. 当我读到《外围十大菠菜app》的文章时, it made me reflect on one thing: in our pursuit to become so connected as a society, we have actually fostered a disconnect unlike anything in modern times.
It also made me wonder if there is a deeper part of this equation. 因为外围十大菠菜app看到的许多统计数据以及我说过和写过的许多事情, could poor leadership in our workplaces be in some way responsible? 会不会是日常生活中缺乏成就感——在工作中，工人被视为功能或物体，而不是人——导致了与世界的脱节，所以人们转而转向虚拟生活，寻找他们所缺少的认可?
外围十大菠菜app的领导者能否成为一股治愈力量，修复外围十大菠菜app社会中的一些脱节，而不是助长分歧?
让我解释一下我的思路.
吃垃圾食品
A recent episode of our Coffee Conversations video series ——它有趣地展示了外围十大菠菜app沟通技巧课的原则——讨论了沟通周期的第一步是如何“寻求联系”.” That step is so important but is often and easily overlooked. 人们想当然地认为，发起交流的目的是为了与另一个人建立联系.
But maybe the people in our lives miss the signaling behaviors of communication. 外围十大菠菜app的老板不听外围十大菠菜app的建议. Our co-workers are more interested in their own career path than helping others. 外围十大菠菜app觉得自己是公司的一部分, 用于特定的功能, 但没有被当作人对待.
没有建立联系. 社交媒体让外围十大菠菜app很容易产生多巴胺，外围十大菠菜app需要这种多巴胺来让自己感觉更好, but we still lack the real connection and validation we need. 外围十大菠菜app一直在吃垃圾食品，而垃圾食品只会让外围十大菠菜app感觉不好，即使外围十大菠菜app已经吃饱了.
《外围十大菠菜app》上的一篇文章让我思考，这种缺乏联系和认同的结果可能是什么:
“但逐渐, 社交媒体用户变得更愿意与陌生人和公司分享他们生活的私密细节……他们变得更善于表演和管理自己的个人品牌活动，这些活动可能会给别人留下深刻印象，但不会像私人电话交谈那样加深友谊.”
它也让我想起了一些事情 my friend Simon Sinek has said about the millennial generation, which really applies to many people and generations:
“外围十大菠菜app知道，使用社交媒体和手机会释放一种叫做多巴胺的化学物质. That’s why when you get a text – it feels good. 2012年的一项研究, 哈佛大学的研究科学家报告说，通过社交媒体谈论自己会激活大脑中一种通常与食物有关的愉悦感, 金钱与性. 这就是外围十大菠菜app计算点赞数的原因, it’s why we go back ten times to see if the interaction is growing, and if our Instagram is slowing we wonder if we have done something wrong, or if people don’t like us anymore… We know when you get the attention it feels good, you get a hit of dopamine which feels good which is why we keep going back to it. Dopamine is the exact same chemical that makes us feel good when we smoke, 当外围十大菠菜app喝酒和赌博的时候. In other words, it’s highly, highly addictive…
这些东西平衡了，还不错. 酒精不是坏事，酗酒才是坏事. Gambling is fun, too much gambling is dangerous. There is nothing wrong with social media and cellphones, it’s the imbalance.
If you are sitting at dinner with your friends, and you are texting somebody who is not there – that’s a problem. 这是一种上瘾. 如果你坐在会议上，你应该倾听和交谈, 你把手机放在桌子上, that sends a subconscious message to the room “you’re just not that important.” The fact that you can’t put the phone away, that’s because you are addicted.
If you wake up and you check your phone before you say good morning to your girlfriend, 男友或配偶, 你上瘾了. 就像所有的上瘾一样, 在时间, 它会破坏人际关系, 这需要时间, it will cost money and it will make your life worse.”
There’s a quote from the Drew Carey Show: “Oh, you hate your job? 你为什么不早说呢? 有一个支持小组. It's called everybody, and they meet at the bar.”
长久以来, 酒精被描绘成那些因为在工作和生活中缺乏成就感而士气低落的人的慰藉. The person gets off work after a long day, goes to the bar. How many TV shows or movies have used this conceit?
但不是一瓶酒，而是缺乏满足感驱使人们在社交媒体上寻求安慰? 一种更容易被接受的活动，但如果没有节制，可能和酒精一样有害?
寻找食物
摘自哈佛商业评论:
一项研究的3,122名瑞典男性员工发现，那些为“有毒老板”工作的人患心脏病的可能性要高出60%, 中风, 或其他危及生命的心脏疾病. 在美国工作场所的其他研究表明，有“有毒”老板的人更容易受到慢性压力的影响, 抑郁症, 和焦虑, all of which increase the risk of a lowered immune system, 感冒, 中风, 甚至心脏病发作. 一些研究表明，可能需要长达22个月的时间才能从一个有毒的老板身上恢复过来.”
When people spend their time at work for 40 hours or more a week, they are dedicating a significant part of their lives to their leaders. 外围十大菠菜app怎能不认识到这种影响呢, 好与坏, that leaders in businesses and organizations have on the lives in their spans of care?
外围十大菠菜app每一个人, 不管外围十大菠菜app做什么工作，住在哪里, simply want to know that who we are and what we do matters. 如果外围十大菠菜app觉得自己不重要，如果外围十大菠菜app觉得自己不被关心，外围十大菠菜app就会做出相应的反应. 外围十大菠菜app可能会陷入沮丧. 外围十大菠菜app可能会大发雷霆. 外围十大菠菜app可能会寻求人为的联系. We may act out in whatever way we think might give us the validation we need, 无论多么具有破坏性或破坏性.
作为商业领袖，外围十大菠菜app有责任让人们知道他们很重要. To provide work that is fulfilling and authentic relationships built on trust and respect. We have a responsibility to recognize the inherent dignity in our people and honor that, 不要打破它.
Our leadership can break people down, but it can also build people up.
Of course, one of the most important things we need to do is listen. When we recognize the signaling behaviors of another person, 谁在寻求联系, 外围十大菠菜app可以通过倾听来回应. 真正的移情倾听，一个人真正听到另一个人的话语和感受. A listening that builds empathy as it allows us to see things from others' perspectives. 这是所有有意义的关系的关键，因为它表明你尊重和关心你正在倾听的人.
外围十大菠菜app可以在与外围十大菠菜app领导的人相处的时间里展示和教授更好的倾听.
我亲眼目睹了外围十大菠菜app在Barry-Wehmiller公司教授的移情倾听课程对外围十大菠菜app公司内部和团队成员的个人生活产生了深远的积极影响. 这就是为什么外围十大菠菜app在内心教导倾听, 不仅仅是因为这对外围十大菠菜app的生意有好处, 而是因为这对外围十大菠菜app的人民有益. 事实证明，这门课程非常有效，因此外围十大菠菜app通过我和妻子辛西娅创立的非营利组织向社区和外部组织提供这门课程, the 查普曼 Foundation for Caring Communities, 通过查普曼 & Co. 领导 Institute, our leadership consulting firm.
采取行动
Regardless of the effect social media has had on our culture, we have a problem. 它并不是随着互联网的出现才出现的，也不是在最近几年才成为一个问题. 这是一列缓慢行驶的火车. 你可以读读我的书，或者看看我博客上的很多帖子，你会发现我一次又一次地写过类似的东西. And I keep writing about it and talking about it because it is so important.
外围十大菠菜app的领导方式影响着人们的生活方式.
当我读到《外围十大菠菜app》上的一篇文章时，它为今天的破碎提供了一些背景, I think about our responsibilities as leaders in business or other organizations. 外围十大菠菜app能帮什么忙?? How can we establish healing organizations to mend the disconnections in our society?
We have a powerful force for good right in front of us. 外围十大菠菜app只需要调动它. It isn’t the answer to everything, but it’s a very good start.
When so many people go home each night not feeling valued, it is no surprise that we see so much conflict in families, 外围十大菠菜app的社区和今天的世界. It is no surprise that social media has become a replacement for authentic connection. 外围十大菠菜app在城市中发生抗议和骚乱并不奇怪，因为人们感到没有被倾听，感到他们的尊严不断受到攻击.
如果人们回家时感觉自己被倾听、被重视、被满足，生活会好得多? Would they engage in toxic behaviors toward one another, online or in-person? Would we still have the division 和焦虑 that exists today? 也许. 但是，我敢打赌事情会大不相同.
Toward the end of The Atlantic article it says:
“We cannot expect Congress and the tech companies to save us. 外围十大菠菜app必须改变外围十大菠菜app自己和外围十大菠菜app的社区.”
外围十大菠菜app必须成为变革者. It’s one thing to lament the state of society. 采取行动，成为外围十大菠菜app关心范围内的人的真正的人类领袖，并试图在绝望的海洋中掀起关怀的涟漪，这是另一回事.